How to Change Him

We all know opposites attract. And if you’re in a relationship where the 2 of you couldn’t be more different, you know this all too well. In fact, it could have been what ignited that “spark” between you in the first place.

Looking back when my husband and I were first dating, I remember how completely different we were especially on the weekends. 

While I was running around the entire time doing errands, he would stay behind to work on the yard, finish a home project or chill watching a movie. I found it so refreshing he was such a homebody.

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Stressed? 5 Steps to Calm Bridezilla

Those that say planning a wedding is all fun NEVER planned one.

When planning my own years ago, stress was a HUGE understatement. So much to do. So little time. And trying to balance every day life on top of it all seemed impossible.

But I don’t have to tell you all about the stress of Bride life. If you’re reading this, I’m guessing you’re in deep!

Have you ever noticed it’s little things that can set you off? You’re probably wondering with everything on your plate if it’s even possible to quiet the inner Bridezilla that threatens to rear her ugly head at every turn?

Take a break, grab a coffee and keep reading girl, because today I’m going to share the 5 steps to calm Bridezilla!

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The One Thing You Probably Don't Know About Your Spouse-To-Be

One of the very first questions I ask when meeting with a couple during a Pre-Marital Coaching session, is if they really know each other. Most often they both laugh and tell me, “Of course. We’re getting married!”

But, the truth is, as much as you may know about the one you’re about to say, “I do” too, chances are you’re missing the one thing that can either make or break your new marriage, which is the expectations you both have going into it.

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3 Reasons Why a Destination Wedding Might Be Perfect For You!

It’s no wonder most Brides find themselves overwhelmed when planning a wedding. Looking back, I’m not sure how I did it!

All those details! The invites, the perfect dress, catering options, finding a venue to fit your guest list, choosing an Officiant; your to-do list never ends. And then there’s the average wedding price tag of $33,000 (and growing), it’s no wonder many couples choose to run away and elope!

But maybe eloping isn’t your style.

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The 3 Biggest Myths About Marriage

Have you ever wondered why many marriages fail?

You’re probably thinking age, money and infidelity are at the top of the list. While those issues do play a part, it goes much deeper than that, and it actually happens before couples say, “I Do”.

All couples enter marriage with expectations, and many times those expectations are the polar opposite of their spouse-to-be!

So why is that?

It’s because our expectations have much to do with the environment we were raised in; gender roles being a huge influence. And even though you would think these differences would be clear before getting married, it usually comes to light after crossing the threshold.

And it’s these expectations that create the lies we believe about marriage. Today, it’s my job to debunk them.

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3 Steps to Handle Parents That Don't Get Along

It might surprise you the biggest reason couples elope today has nothing to do with the overwhelm in planning or lack of money; but instead has everything to do with parents that just can’t or won’t get along.

I experienced this first hand when my soon-to-be mother-in-law and stepmom continuously locked horns from the moment we began planning to the moment we were pronounced husband and wife.

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6 Reasons Why a Same-Day Rehearsal Makes Sense

There are 2 words to keep in mind when planning your wedding.

No Rules.

So, what does that mean?

Years ago, there were things brides would do for no better reason than the fact that it was always done that way. For example, father’s always gave away the bride, the minister would always say, “Is there anyone here who feels this couple should not be joined as husband and wife?” and wedding rehearsals were always the night before the wedding.

Today, it’s all about what makes sense, or what the couple wants for their day, as it should be!

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What Baking A Pastry Taught Me About Marriage

Banket, pronounced bon-ket, is a long, skinny flaky pastry filled with a delicious almond sugar paste. It’s quite difficult to make, but very easy to eat!

You would think that after making this delicacy for the past 30 years, I’d be a pro.

Nope.

The first batch I make each year is almost always “destroyed”; with almond paste seeping out of the crust like active volcano lava. And when I thought about the reasons why this was happening, I knew I had to share what baking a pastry taught me about marriage.

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3 Simple Steps to Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

One of the perks of being an Officiant is experiencing my couple’s excitement as they share the details of their upcoming wedding. There’s smiles all around and you can feel a real energy in the room.

But most of the time that energy turns to silence when I ask if they plan to write their own vows. And, I’ve realized over the years it’s not that they don’t want to write them, it’s they don’t know how to write them.

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3 Alternatives to Giving Away the Bride

There’s an element of a traditional wedding ceremony some find controversial, and that’s the “giving away of the bride”.

It takes place in the very beginning of the ceremony when the Bride and her escort arrive just short of the altar. The Officiant usually asks something along the lines of, “Who gives this woman to this man in marriage?” The escort, most often the Bride’s father says, “Her mother and I.”

So where did the Giving Away of the Bride practice come from?

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