3 Alternatives to Giving Away the Bride

Photo courtesy of Megan Cash Photography

Photo courtesy of Megan Cash Photography

There’s an element of a traditional wedding ceremony some find controversial, and that’s the “giving away of the bride”.

It takes place in the very beginning of the ceremony when the Bride and her escort arrive just short of the altar. The Officiant usually asks something along the lines of, “Who gives this woman to this man in marriage?” The escort, most often the Bride’s father says, “Her mother and I.”

So where did the Giving Away of the Bride practice come from?

It dates back to a time when arranged marriages were commonplace, and when daughters were often used as collateral to settle a debt or disagreement. Many brides find themselves uncomfortable with this part of the ceremony as they don’t want to be considered “property” of someone else, yet they still want to honor their parents by including them in some way.

This is your day, so feel free to leave “tradition” at the door! Looking for something a little different? Keep reading, because, today, I’m going to share 3 alternatives to the traditional “giving away” of the bride.

Be Presented

A modern twist on the “giving away” practice is to have your Officiant or Pastor change the wording to something like, “who presents this woman to this man today?” or “who gives their love and support to Mia as she joins in marriage with David?”

Get the Blessing

Another way to acknowledge your parents or escort at the ceremony is to have your Officiant or pastor ask, “as Mia’s father/parents, and on behalf of her family, do you support her and David as they join their lives in marriage?” The same can be done as a silent gesture when the escort takes the Bride’s hand and places it in her Groom’s hand.

Do Nothing at All

There are no rules when it comes to your wedding ceremony, so you can always keep it simple by giving your escort a quick hug at the end of the aisle before joining your Groom.

What wedding “traditions” could you do without? Leave your comment below and let’s get the conversation started!