3 Steps to Handle Parents That Don't Get Along

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It might surprise you the biggest reason couples elope today has nothing to do with the overwhelm in planning or lack of money; but instead has everything to do with parents that just can’t or won’t get along.

I experienced this first hand when my soon-to-be mother-in-law and stepmom continuously locked horns from the moment we began planning to the moment we were pronounced husband and wife. And my own mother decided not to attend my wedding at all because she didn’t approve my choice for a husband.

It’s Not Your Problem

Although the fact your parents are acting this way can become your problem, please understand it’s not your problem, but theirs.

While most of the time parents mean well, they can get so wrapped up in past hurts and what it is they think is best for you, they don’t realize their focus isn’t where it should be, which is on the two of you and your wedding day.

So what do you do when your divorced parents insist on sitting separately, or your parents and his don’t see eye to eye? Today I’m going to share 3 steps to handle parents that don’t get along.

Have a Conversation

If you’re completely stressed out over parents that aren’t getting along, or seriously concerned about family drama, you might need to have a serious conversation.

And should you decide to have such a meeting, be sure to include your fiancé. The two of you together creates a “united front” which will make a better impact on the conversation. Let them know their behavior will cast a negative vibe on the festivities, and ask they put their differences aside so you can celebrate together as a family.

Consider Counseling

If having a conversation with your parents doesn’t seem to have made a difference in their behavior, you may want to consider counseling. A counselor, pastor or mental health professional will be more objective and may be able to provide insight which may help your parents see how much their actions have really hurt you.

Provide an Ultimatum

Know this. You have a right to a peaceful, joyous wedding day period, and as a last resort, you may find yourself having to offer up an ultimatum to guarantee peace on your wedding day.

Request they check their negative behavior at the door or risk being uninvited to the wedding. And although this may seem harsh, remind yourself they’ve been given plenty of opportunity to put their issues to bed.

Are you dealing with parents or other family members that don’t get along? What methods have you used to promote peace in the family? Start the conversation by commenting below.