Planning your Wedding can be stressful, but, you don’t need me to tell you that! With so many details and so littletime, it’s no wonder
Have you ever wondered why many marriages fail?
You’re probably thinking age, money and infidelity are at the top of the list. While those issues do play a part, it goes much deeper than that, and it actually happens before couples say, “I Do”.
All couples enter marriage with expectations, and many times those expectations are the polar opposite of their spouse-to-be!
So why is that?
It’s because our expectations have much to do with the environment we were raised in; gender roles being a huge influence. And even though you would think these differences would be clear before getting married, it usually comes to light after crossing the threshold.
And it’s these expectations that create the lies we believe about marriage. Today, it’s my job to debunk them.
It might surprise you the biggest reason couples elope today has nothing to do with the overwhelm in planning or lack of money; but instead has everything to do with parents that just can’t or won’t get along.
I experienced this first hand when my soon-to-be mother-in-law and stepmom continuously locked horns from the moment we began planning to the moment we were pronounced husband and wife.
There are 2 words to keep in mind when planning your wedding.
So, what does that mean?
Years ago, there were things brides would do for no better reason than the fact that it was always done that way. For example, father’s always gave away the bride, the minister would always say, “Is there anyone here who feels this couple should not be joined as husband and wife?” and wedding rehearsals were always the night before the wedding.
Today, it’s all about what makes sense, or what the couple wants for their day, as it should be!
Banket, pronounced bon-ket, is a long, skinny flaky pastry filled with a delicious almond sugar paste. It’s quite difficult to make, but very easy to eat!
You would think that after making this delicacy for the past 30 years, I’d be a pro.
The first batch I make each year is almost always “destroyed”; with almond paste seeping out of the crust like active volcano lava. And when I thought about the reasons why this was happening, I knew I had to share what baking a pastry taught me about marriage.
One of the perks of being an Officiant is experiencing my couple’s excitement as they share the details of their upcoming wedding. There’s smiles all around and you can feel a real energy in the room.
But most of the time that energy turns to silence when I ask if they plan to write their own vows. And, I’ve realized over the years it’s not that they don’t want to write them, it’s they don’t know how to write them.