Planning your Wedding can be stressful, but, you don’t need me to tell you that! With so many details and so littletime, it’s no wonder
One of the very first questions I ask when meeting with a couple during a Pre-Marital Coaching session, is if they really know each other. Most often they both laugh and tell me, “Of course. We’re getting married!”
But, the truth is, as much as you may know about the one you’re about to say, “I do” too, chances are you’re missing the one thing that can either make or break your new marriage, which is the expectations you both have going into it.
It’s no wonder most Brides find themselves overwhelmed when planning a wedding. Looking back, I’m not sure how I did it!
All those details! The invites, the perfect dress, catering options, finding a venue to fit your guest list, choosing an Officiant; your to-do list never ends. And then there’s the average wedding price tag of $33,000 (and growing), it’s no wonder many couples choose to run away and elope!
But maybe eloping isn’t your style.
Have you ever wondered why many marriages fail?
You’re probably thinking age, money and infidelity are at the top of the list. While those issues do play a part, it goes much deeper than that, and it actually happens before couples say, “I Do”.
All couples enter marriage with expectations, and many times those expectations are the polar opposite of their spouse-to-be!
So why is that?
It’s because our expectations have much to do with the environment we were raised in; gender roles being a huge influence. And even though you would think these differences would be clear before getting married, it usually comes to light after crossing the threshold.
And it’s these expectations that create the lies we believe about marriage. Today, it’s my job to debunk them.
It might surprise you the biggest reason couples elope today has nothing to do with the overwhelm in planning or lack of money; but instead has everything to do with parents that just can’t or won’t get along.
I experienced this first hand when my soon-to-be mother-in-law and stepmom continuously locked horns from the moment we began planning to the moment we were pronounced husband and wife.
There are 2 words to keep in mind when planning your wedding.
So, what does that mean?
Years ago, there were things brides would do for no better reason than the fact that it was always done that way. For example, father’s always gave away the bride, the minister would always say, “Is there anyone here who feels this couple should not be joined as husband and wife?” and wedding rehearsals were always the night before the wedding.
Today, it’s all about what makes sense, or what the couple wants for their day, as it should be!