Why Your Friend Shouldn't Officiate Your Wedding

The One With Monica and Chandler's Wedding

The One With Monica and Chandler's Wedding

So, you're planning your wedding, and it just hit you. You have no idea who's going to make it official!

You don't want to get married at the courthouse, but you don't belong to a Church. Now what?

Then a friend offers to officiate for you. And, It seems like a great idea, right? After all, they know you best, who better to help you say, "I Do?"

This isn't to say every wedding where a friend officiates is a disaster, but, successful ceremonies are very few and far between.

So, before you trade your BFF's invitation for a microphone, consider the 4 reasons why your friend shouldn't officiate for you.

1. They're too close

Because you're so close, there's a pretty good chance they'll be emotional. If they start to "lose it" and get choked up, or even worse, start crying, you'll probably do the same.

2. They'll get stage fright

It happens. The music stops, the Bride gets to the altar, and then it's "Deer in the headlights". They've forgotten ever word. They open their mouth and nothing comes out.


3. They have absolutely no idea what they're doing

There are many parts to a wedding ceremony and there must be a flow from one transition to the next. Just because they've watched hundreds of weddings on TV or attended a few in person doesn't guarantee they'd be a good fit. THere's so much more to officiating a wedding than reading from a script.

A professional Wedding Officiant performs ceremonies regularly. It's their specialty. It's how they pay the bills.

Officiants wear many hats. They consult and coach the Bride and Groom, they write the ceremony (sometimes from scratch), they sign and file the marriage license, and in many cases, direct the wedding rehearsal.

Wedding Officiants are passionate about what they do. They help put a little more love in the world, one wedding at a time.

Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event. Make it memorable in a "good" way. Let a professional take the worry out of saying "I Do!"