You’ve picked the date, found the venue, and maybe even agreed on a first dance song. You love each other deeply and of course you’re on the same page about marriage… right?

Not always.

As a premarital coach, I’ve seen so many engaged couples run into unexpected friction—not because they don’t love each other, but because they assumed they were aligned on the big stuff… only to find out later they weren’t. That “wait, what?!” moment? It’s common. But it’s also totally avoidable.

Let’s talk about where things usually go sideways:

Money Mindsets Clash

What they thought: “We both want to save and be smart with our finances.”
What really happened: One of them thinks "smart" means living frugally and building a fat savings account. The other is already planning that dream honeymoon and thinking YOLO.

Expectations Around Roles

What they thought: “We’ll split everything 50/50.”
What really happened: One person assumed that meant chores, decision-making, bills, and emotional labor. The other thought 50/50 meant they’d alternate who orders UberEats.

Kids (Or Not)

What they thought: “We both want kids eventually.”
What really happened: One’s thinking 2 years. The other’s thinking “ask me again in 10… or never.”

Intimacy Misfires

What they thought: “We’re totally in sync emotionally and physically.”
What really happened: One person wants more emotional check-ins and physical touch. The other thinks things are just fine as-is.

These aren’t red flags. They’re opportunities to grow closer before you walk down the aisle.

So how do you find out where you really stand?

That’s where the Marriage Relationship Audit comes in.

• A quick, no-pressure assessment

• Personalized feedback from a certified premarital coach

These conversations don’t always happen naturally—and when they do, they can feel awkward or even tense. But here's the thing:

It’s way better to uncover these differences now than when you're already knee-deep in wedding bills and building a life together.

That’s why I created the Marriage Relationship Audit—a super simple, zero-pressure check-in that takes just 10 minutes. It’s designed to highlight your strengths and gently surface any areas you might want to talk more about before saying “I do.”

No therapy. No judgment. Just honest insight, straight to your inbox.

Ready to find out how aligned you really are?
Take the Marriage Relationship Audit and find out in under 10 minutes for only $27!

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Better communication starts before the wedding. Let’s make sure your “forever” has a solid foundation.